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<DIV id=mainNewsContent class="mainNewsContent NewsContent"><TR><TD style="PADDING-TOP: 10px" class=td_24 width="660"> 台湾女作家施寄青是一位放飞了自己丈夫的奇女子。在遭遇了婚姻变故后,她获得了这样的认识:丈夫有外遇而离开家庭,好比下雨天有人偷走了你的伞。这时,女性是顺手再拿别人一把伞,还是随便另买一把?施寄青的答案是:“有时,我们也可以淋雨。” ! |' ]( y* z6 C$ S
<P><FONT face=Arial> 外遇,一直是女性在婚姻中深为恐惧的瘟疫。它能触及人性底层最恐惧、最容易引发痛苦的“背叛”情结,给当事人带来难以平复的巨大心理创伤。大多数女性在外遇面前,会脆弱得不堪一击。家住加拿大英属哥伦比亚省的安妮·伯特一直认为,自己有一段完美的婚姻。直到有一天,丈夫布莱恩·伯特主动承认,自己有了外遇。“听到这个消息时,我整个人都惊呆了。”11月4日,安妮在接受美国福克斯电视台采访时回忆道,“我开始和不同的人交流,了解他们对婚姻的看法,面对背叛时的态度,试图找到一些合理的解决方法。最后,我挽救了自己的婚姻。”11月的第一周,安妮和丈夫庆祝了两人结婚26周年纪念日,同时,两人联名撰写的《丈夫的外遇是我遇到的最重要之事》一书,也登上了各大畅销书排行榜。</FONT></P>* q; t0 \6 ~) I: u& p; f2 k/ x( Z7 I
<P><FONT face=Arial> 美国心理学家马塞拉·巴克表示,很多人面对外遇时,第一个念头就是细数自己受到的伤害,而不是判断是否能挽救婚姻、积极想办法来重建信赖感,逃避是于事无补的。“如果觉得还深爱对方,那就要学会处理怀疑感。”</FONT></P>- `( u& o& P4 x" f: A
<P><FONT face=Arial> 安妮说:“获知噩耗的3个月内,夫妻双方都不要做任何重大的决定。而是尽量让生活保持原有的规律,照常上班、参加社会活动、和老朋友聚会,这样有助于从理性的角度去反省背叛。”对伯特夫妇而言,开始改正自己的错误并学会接受对方,这一点非常有效。“人无完人。任何一对夫妻都要先检讨自己。以前,我们倾向于责备对方,其实自身也有很多问题。现在,我们不再要求对方尽善尽美,维持彼此依赖的关系也就不再是件难事。”</FONT></P>* g7 _4 k8 r2 b' d7 ~8 q
<P><FONT face=Arial> 据了解,为了帮助更多面对婚姻危机的人,安妮还开办了非营利性网站“超越外遇”,专为夫妻提供有效的建议。 </FONT></P><A href="http://www.souod.com/"><FONT color=#810081><搜得健康网,专业健康知识分享,为你健康保驾护航></FONT></A>) f1 ^- {/ j7 Q* r, Y1 E; [3 g
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